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| Your Type is
INFJ| Introverted | Intuitive | Feeling | Judging |
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Strength of the preferences %
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Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging
by Joe Butt
Profile: INFJ
Revision: 3.01
Date of Revision: 6 Mar 2005
Beneath the quiet exterior, INFJs hold deep convictions about the
weightier matters of life. Those who are activists -- INFJs gravitate
toward such a role -- are there for the cause, not for personal glory
or political power.
INFJs are champions of the oppressed and downtrodden. They often are
found in the wake of an emergency, rescuing those who are in acute
distress. INFJs may fantasize about getting revenge on those who
victimize the defenseless. The concept of 'poetic justice' is appealing
to the INFJ.
"There's something rotten in Denmark." Accurately suspicious about
others' motives, INFJs are not easily led. These are the people that
you can rarely fool any of the time. Though affable and sympathetic to
most, INFJs are selective about their friends. Such a friendship is a
symbiotic bond that transcends mere words.
INFJs have a knack for fluency in language and facility in
communication. In addition, nonverbal sensitivity enables the INFJ to
know and be known by others intimately.
Writing, counseling, public service and even politics are areas where INFJs frequently find their niche.
Functional Analysis:
Introverted iNtuition
Introverted intuitives, INFJs enjoy a greater clarity of perception of
inner, unconscious processes than all but their INTJ cousins. Just as
SP types commune with the object and "live in the here and now" of the
physical world, INFJs readily grasp the hidden psychological stimuli
behind the more observable dynamics of behavior and affect. Their
amazing ability to deduce the inner workings of the mind, will and
emotions of others gives INFJs their reputation as prophets and seers.
Unlike the confining, routinizing nature of introverted sensing,
introverted intuition frees this type to act insightfully and
spontaneously as unique solutions arise on an event by event basis.
Extraverted Feeling
Extraverted feeling, the auxiliary deciding function, expresses a
range of emotion and opinions of, for and about people. INFJs, like
many other FJ types, find themselves caught between the desire to
express their wealth of feelings and moral conclusions about the
actions and attitudes of others, and the awareness of the consequences
of unbridled candor. Some vent the attending emotions in private, to
trusted allies. Such confidants are chosen with care, for INFJs are
well aware of the treachery that can reside in the hearts of mortals.
This particular combination of introverted intuition and extraverted
feeling provides INFJs with the raw material from which perceptive
counselors are shaped.
Introverted Thinking
The INFJ's thinking is introverted, turned toward the subject.
Perhaps it is when the INFJ's thinking function is operative that he
is most aloof. A comrade might surmise that such detachment signals a
disillusionment, that she has also been found lacking by the sardonic
eye of this one who plumbs the depths of the human spirit. Experience
suggests that such distancing is merely an indication that the seer
is hard at work and focusing energy into this less efficient tertiary
function.
Extraverted Sensing
INFJs are twice blessed with clarity of vision, both internal and
external. Just as they possess inner vision which is drawn to the forms
of the unconscious, they also have external sensing perception which
readily takes hold of worldly objects. Sensing, however, is the
weakest of the INFJ's arsenal and the most vulnerable. INFJs, like
their fellow intuitives, may be so absorbed in intuitive perceiving
that they become oblivious to physical reality. The INFJ under
stress may fall prey to various forms of immediate gratification.
Awareness of extraverted sensing is probably the source of the "SP
wannabe" side of INFJs. Many yearn to live spontaneously; it's not
uncommon for INFJ actors to take on an SP (often ESTP) role.
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| According to dictionary.com, "selfish" means
self·ish    /ˈsɛlfɪʃ/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[sel-fish] –adjective | 1. | devoted
to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one's own
interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others. |
| 2. | characterized by or manifesting concern or care only for oneself: selfish motives. |
I got to thinking about: ourselves, as in, the concept of "self". From childhood, our natural instinct is to think in terms of "I", and the "We" part is learned. Some people are better at "I" and some people at "We". In matters of the heart, where does the balance lay?
The obvious answer is to find someone who share's a common "I" mentality, otherwise known as "compatibility".
On the other hand, opposites attract, as in, people with different "I's". In situations like that, We learn to respect and work around the differences. How much should we be willing to change our "I" though?
We are considered "weak" if we change our "I" for someone else, yet "selfish" if we stay true to our own. OR
We are considered "caring" if we change our "I" for someone else, yet "independent" if we stay true to our own.
I started thinking, maybe it's only okay to alter our "I" in a serious relationship, but some say you should never change your "I", for anyone. People do crazy things for "Love", for that sense of "we". But what about that grey area, before love. Someone has to make the first sacrifice of "I". You have to put yourself out there and hope your "I" doesn't get crapped on. Laying out the "I" cards on the table, becomes a risky game, where you could go home empty handed... and nobody likes losing, especially when the prize is your pride.
Right now, my "I" is more important than any "We", mainly as a result of always thinking "We" for most of my life. I find myself feeling both happier and guilty. How responsible are you when others are getting hurt at the expense of your "I".
Ultimately, we all want a "we", as in a spouse, kids and maybe a dog named Spike. I believe the only way to a strong "we" is a strong "I", but two strong "I's" don't make a "right".
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| I've been working on a 'wait-til-pushed-over-the-edge... i-can't-take-this-shit-anymore' basis and it just isn't fun. With schoolwork I wait til I want to jump off a stack of work to my death, only then do I actually do the work. Same thing, socially... I let things go and build up and then I freak out people.
What I have to do is take care of the little things as they come and not let them build up. Word. | | |
| I'm officially a vegetarian, since Sunday Mar. 19th. It's not hard, I never really liked red meat that much... it's the chicken that i'm going to miss...
Good bye chicken quesadillas. Goodbye. | | |
| According to Cosmo...
A reader asked, "Honestly, are guys ever really "too busy" to be in a relationship? We've all heard the line a million times, and I'm just wondering if it is just a bunch of BS.
The (male) advice writer replied, "Look, the truth of the matter is that when a guy really likes you, he makes the time. Sure, there are a handful of men whose lives are so hectic that they just can't put the proper energy into dating you. Like, if he's in law school or working 36-hour shifts in the ER--those are pretty good excuses.
But more often than not, when a guys says "I'm too busy to be in a relationship," that's code for "I don't want to be in a relationship with you." Although he may still want to hang out occasionally or do the whole booty-call thing, he's keeping his dating options open.
And what better way to weasel out of a relationship than to blame it on a time crunch? First off, it's a whole lot easier than telling the truth (which you don't want to hear anyway). Secondly, how can you argue with him someone who says he's too busy? You can't exactly ask him to quit his job in order to spend quality snuggle time with you. So the next time you hear that sorry line, take it for what it is: nothing but a lame excuse."
Well said Cosmo... poorly done Katie. Damn it. | | |
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